{"id":254,"date":"2018-03-26T19:29:09","date_gmt":"2018-03-26T19:29:09","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/ledbyher.org\/blog\/?p=254"},"modified":"2018-03-26T19:29:09","modified_gmt":"2018-03-26T19:29:09","slug":"jai-tenu-bon-le-livre-de-louise-sevres-survecue-aux-violences-de-son-compagnon","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ledbyher.org\/en\/2018\/03\/26\/jai-tenu-bon-le-livre-de-louise-sevres-survecue-aux-violences-de-son-compagnon\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00ab J\u2019ai tenu bon \u00bb: le livre de Louise SEVRES"},"content":{"rendered":"

Tous les mardis les Mentors de Led by HER se retrouvent pour \u00e9changer sur leur mission et leurs exp\u00e9riences. Mardi 13 mars, ils ont accueilli Louise SEVRES et <\/span><\/i>Lionel JACQUELIN<\/i><\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cSon t\u00e9moignage poignant a permis d\u2019avoir une lecture plus avis\u00e9e de son<\/span><\/i> l<\/i><\/b>ivre <\/i>\u00ab J\u2019ai tenu bon \u00bb<\/i><\/a><\/strong>,<\/strong> qui est une mise en lumi\u00e8re de son v\u00e9cu aupr\u00e8s d\u2019un compagnon usant de strat\u00e9gies perverses. Ce moment de partage <\/span><\/i>a <\/span><\/i>permis aux mentors de voyager au c\u0153ur d’une probl\u00e9matique d’actualit\u00e9, qui touche de nombreuses femmes mais \u00e9galement beaucoup d’hommes.\u201d, <\/span><\/i>explique Theodor FELEZEU, que depuis 2015 accompagne les Mentors au sein de Led By HER.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cPour cette soir\u00e9e exceptionnelle <\/span><\/i>les mentors ont <\/span><\/i>profit\u00e9 de la pr\u00e9sence de <\/span><\/i>Lionel JACQUELIN, Psychologue clinicien<\/i><\/strong>, <\/span><\/i>il nous a <\/span><\/i>permis, via son expertise, d\u2019appr\u00e9hender de fa\u00e7on plus accessible les enjeux de cette relation (violence, manipulation, emprise exerc\u00e9e par ces individus, etc.). <\/span><\/i>On per\u00e7oit ainsi comment le processus pervers se met en place d\u00e8s le d\u00e9part : la (future) victime rencontre son pr\u00e9dateur, qui exploite (ce comportement est assimilable \u00e0 une forme d’instinct !) les failles de sa proie. Le d\u00e9sir de “rencontre magique” de Louise, aurait \u00a0rencontr\u00e9 le “vide absolu” de son ex-compagnon. Elle aurait rencontr\u00e9 son \u00ab antith\u00e8se \u00bb, \u00ab l\u2019envers de son miroir \u00bb, qui va se servir d’elle pour exister. Par essence, le pervers est “vide” et la victime, elle, est progressivement vid\u00e9e de sa substance psychique et se transforme en OBJET, son objet \u00e0 lui.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

La victime va alors, malgr\u00e9 elle, l\u2019alimenter, le remplir. Dans la situation de Louise, la relation \u00e9tait marqu\u00e9e par de nombreux comportements psychopathiques de la part de son ex-compagnon et notamment par l’usage de l’impulsivit\u00e9 et de la violence physique en vue d’asseoir sa domination. Louise fait part des paradoxes qui marquaient les attitudes et le discours de cet homme. En clair, dans la relation et dans le discours il soufflait le chaud et le froid en permanence (i.e. en la valorisant puis en la rabaissant) pour b\u00e2tir son emprise. Il cherchait \u00e0 tout prix \u00e0 maintenir le contr\u00f4le sur elle, co\u00fbte que co\u00fbte, car “elle lui appartenait” (notamment via un isolement progressif des autres “miroirs” valorisants que sont les proches, amis, famille\u2026)<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

La menace envers son enfant a \u00e9t\u00e9 le d\u00e9clic chez Louise. Cet homme l\u2019avait attaqu\u00e9e dans sa seule dimension de SUJET. En sauvant son fils, elle s\u2019est sauv\u00e9e elle-m\u00eame.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

Ce qu’il faut saisir de ces m\u00e9canismes est que la victime a v\u00e9ritablement “la t\u00eate \u00e0 l’envers” : ses certitudes sont perverties et donc son rapport \u00e0 l\u2019autre et ses actions sont parfois frapp\u00e9s d\u2019incoh\u00e9rences aux yeux de l\u2019entourage. Pour les accompagnants, il s’agit d’\u00eatre factuel (la s\u00e9curit\u00e9, la loi!), de mettre les “points sur les i” et d\u2019amener la victime \u00e0 progressivement prendre conscience de sa situation.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

Un tr\u00e8s grand merci \u00e0 Louise et Lionel pour votre pr\u00e9sence et vos \u00e9clairages pr\u00e9cieux ! <\/i><\/strong><\/p>\n

Nous esp\u00e9rons que vos voix, alli\u00e9es aux n\u00f4tres, puissent amener de nombreuses victimes \u00e0 se lib\u00e9rer, gu\u00e9rir et vivre \u00e0 nouveau.<\/i><\/strong><\/p>\n

Nota : vous pouvez vous procurer le tr\u00e8s utile (!) <\/span><\/i>\u00ab J\u2019ai tenu bon \u00bb<\/i><\/a><\/strong> \u00a0<\/span><\/i>sur Amazon ou aupr\u00e8s de Karine Muller (<\/span><\/i>Karine.Muller@cliffordchance.com<\/span><\/i>) <\/span><\/i><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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